This Is The Simple Way To Not Settle For Ordinary In The 21st Century

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I always notice how one of the most fascinating topics of study is people.

Ordinary VS Extraordinary

Here’s a fun example:

In today’s ever changing and often monotonous world, so many people claim they’re looking for an opportunity to be different. But when someone presents them with an opportunity to be different, those people want to stay the same.

Isn’t that interesting?

My mentor Jim Rohn said it best:

“If you’re not willing to risk the usual you’ll have to settle for the ordinary.”

So many have the potential to do good, be great, and live a happier, more fulfilled life. But having a better life is different than most people, and we’ve been led to believe different is uncomfortable. So many don’t realize their potential simply because… it’s more comfortable to settle and stay the same.

If you want change, you must change.

If you don’t like something, you must change something.

If you want to be extraordinary, you gotta do a little EXTRA!

And if you do nothing, nothing happens.

Shawn B

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Impatient? READ THIS… How Does This Popular Movie Quote Relate To Your Current Life?

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So in my world, so much can change in 8 hours! Here’s a real-TIME story unfolding right now:

Two hours ago I was at home in my underwear. Now, I’m lying down comfortably in my honeywagon, after a major movie production sent a driver to pick me up and bring me to set. Yup, I’ve been requested.

UPDATE: I was Adam Sandler’s movement coach for this movie:

How The Heck Did I Get Here? (And Other Random Ramblings)

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If you want it, you have to PREPARE for it. I’m constantly striving to become the person I am capable of being. Working hard is NOT the same as working smart. Understand the difference, then do both! Sometimes that means late nights or earlier mornings. Many times it requires doing something that makes you uncomfortable.

Everything you want in life is just outside your comfort zone.

Listen. Whatever you want you’re not going to get right away. I’ve worked diligently for years to build a reputation of being an expert in my field. So now, sometimes unexpectedly, I land a gig and appear on set literally hours later. Pretty cool sh*t. 🙂

There’s a popular saying in the movie biz:

“I’ll get you, my pretty, and your little dog, too!”

That’s a good one, no? Damn witches…

But the one I’m referring to is actually “Hurry Up And Wait.” It’s important to notice how that directly relates to our personal growth as well. Invest in yourself NOW. Work hard NOW…

…Then be patient. You might not see instant success but you will reap the benefits in the future.

Wait for it. It’s coming!

@ShawnByfield

ATTENTION: All Impatient, Entitled, Wanna-Be Choreographers, Actors, Directors, etc- Here’s A Harsh Reality Check Worth Reading

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Unlike the dapper gentleman above, this post isn’t pretty. So if you’re looking for an article that leaves warm fuzzies, shuffle away. But if you can handle some truth sprinkled with sarcasm…

Listen up.

One of the most iconic directors, choreographers and entertainers of our time, Gene Kelly, had to WORK his way up the ranks. Imagine that! And if that word WORK made you shudder, you definitely need to read the rest.

This quick story may resonate with you:

Before even making it to Hollywood, Gene Kelly did what other parental pleasing kids did. What’s that, you ask? Answer: He went to university. For something OTHER than dance.

But wait- wasn’t he a child star? Hell no. Sure, today you know him as “GENE KELLY, OMG he’s so freaking famous and successful! I love Singing In The Rain!”

But guess what? He didn’t start all Hollywood. Far from it. In fact, Pittsburgh-born Kelly went to university and got a BA in Economics in his town.

Boring? Yes. Fact? Yes.

Wait, You Think YOUR Life Sucks? His Gets Even More Uninteresting

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Then! Wait for it… he went to Law School for a bit.

Even more yawnage.

So guess what did he did while in post secondary? C’mon guess! You’ll never guess… He taught dance at his family’s dance studio. Like who does that? Oh wait- pretty much every dance studio kid with no idea of what to do in life once they hit 18.

And… that’s it.

No really, that’s it.

Sure, he had ambitions, and was passionately talented. That’s what made him so remarkable to watch. So in 1937 after getting his BA in Economics, he quit law school after 2 months (because that’s what lost youth do, “I think I’ll get ANOTHER degree in something I don’t like”) left his teaching gig at the studio and off he went to big ‘ol New York for a couple years to be a choreographer.

And guess how that turned out? Wikipedia: “After a fruitless search, Kelly returned to Pittsburgh…”

No surprise there. Cue movie man voice:

A heartwarming story of courageous small town cutie. Despite having [deceased parents] [disgruntled step dad] [no support whatsoever], cutie uses her burning passion for dance, a dry turkey sandwich and sells all her sh#t to scrape together enough pesos to live in Big City USA for two gruelling, roller-coaster weeks on her quest to make it.

Pretty much sums up every dance movie EVER, right?

Anyway. So a year later, Kelly went back home. Defeated. Whomp whomp. Hey, Broadway happens.

=== FUN FACT: If you haven’t seen Gene’s “Gotta Dance” scene then find it. It’s a montage of what he went through during this time. ===

Of course, he was always a star to his parents. Awww. His friends most likely enjoyed his Playhouse theatre performances.

Speaking of performances, visit my Toronto dance studio if you want to tap dance like he did.

So Did He Nail The LSAT? Is District Attorney Gene Kelly Finally Born?

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He said “eff that, I’m gonna dance!” (or something like that.)

Kelly never returned to law school and FOCUSED his time instead on choreography for the local Pittsburgh Playhouse Theatre.

=== FUN FACT: one of the numbers he choreographed at the local theatre ended up being re-worked for a major movie EIGHT YEARS LATER. ===

His first taste of Broadway came because a choreographer at the time (Robert Alton) saw Kelly teaching at the Pittsburgh Playhouse and was impressed.

Pretty boring story huh?

Slow down, grasshopper, there’s more…

It was only from working his way up as a performer for three more YEARS did Gene Kelly finally get noticed and represented by Hollywood execs. Once there, his first movie was with, get this- Judy Garland, who was a mega film star- in her teens.

Yeah, no pressure… working with the seasoned singer/actress who already made ruby slippers and terriers famous. Fast forward to a few years of success… and you’d be singing in the rain too.

Ok Shawn… I Don’t Get It. But What Should I Do?

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So what’s the moral of this story? If you’ve read this far, you most likely take yourself seriously and you’re passionate about what you can offer.

So here’s an easy to follow, bubble-bursting, reality based checklist every aspiring Coyote Ugly bartender or Julliard bound ballerina should magnetize to your fridge and read daily:

1) SHUT UP, Listen To Your Parents And Get An EDUCATION.

At the very least, find other passions in a different field of study. Because if your “thing” doesn’t work out then you can always fall back on Law School, Economics or some other sh#tty program. It’s hard work either way.

And when you graduate, you’ll hopefully get paid in your field, which will make you AND the ‘rentals happy. Plus, being smart is sexy. Especially in big cities. And ready for the Win-Win? Smart people can drop out of school and be wildly successful on their creative ideas. (Sergey Brin and Larry Page for example.)

2) Teach At And SUPPORT Community Theatre, Local Shows And Events.

That’s where you build your chops. Or props, tee hee. You’ll meet who you’ll meet. Some will be not as talented as you, most will burn circles around you.

But guaranteed, years later, some jerk you worked with then lands a BIG break. If you were a no-drama, no-attitude, humble to work with kind of person back then, you’ll be remembered and rewarded with a bigger role in the future.

3) Put Your Big-headed Ego Aside And EARN YOUR STRIPES.

You won’t be handed the top paying, most important role right away. “Oh, I’m sorry? You just graduated from theatre school and think you should be artistic director of the whole place? Yeah… NO. You’ll start as an usher, hand out f#ckin programs and sweep popcorn. Here’s your hairnet.”

THAT’S how this biz works. Do the sh#tty gigs before you earn the big ones.

4) Be Patient And WAIT YOUR DAMN TURN.

There’s already a seasoned director/choreographer/actor who has a track record for success. If you’re some fresh-off-the-Greyhound keener from Moose Jaw, then guess what?

Exactly. We don’t have time to guess. I don’t know you. And neither does anyone else. We’re Canadian. Which means we don’t handle risks well, so DO SOMETHING that might get you noticed over a long period of time and eventually, someone will catch on. When they do, you’ll be ready with a ton of experience.

5) Lastly, Learn About The Experts That Are ALREADY DOING IT.

More importantly: Learn about the people that DID IT BEFORE. In every school on Earth there’s a subject called History. Whatever industry you’re trying to get into, research it’s past and who created the present. There’s a big chance whatever your brilliant mind though of, somebody else already beat you to it.

Take time to Respect the work that others have done before your arrogant self showed up. If it weren’t for leaders busting their butts in the past, you might not even HAVE an opportunity today. With the FREE tools available to you to learn, improve your craft and even GASP- contact the person who has the job you want and ask for apprenticeship, you have no excuse.

Hey, this is what worked for Gene Kelly. I’d say he did quite well for himself. No handouts, no horse shoes up his butt, no silver spoon. Just hard work, patience and more hard work.

There is no shortcut to success in entertainment. If you aspire to do great things and leave your mark on this stage, there’s your exact process to follow. Use the tips to your advantage, and you’ll find your name in lights with the rest of them.

Merde! And Share your comments below if you found this useful- or know somebody who needs this wake up call,

@ShawnByfield

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Shawn ByfieldShawn Byfield is a sought-after dance choreographer, performer, presenter, coach and entrepreneur. His unique perspective is enjoyed by thousands who dance, train and mentor with him every year. Visit www.ShawnByfield.com to discover what you’ve been missing.

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If You’re Feeling Discouraged, Unsupported Or Overworked Right Now, You’re NOT Alone… Read This

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There’s always an obstacle when you have a big dream!

Here’s a story:

I remember when I wanted my dance studio BDX. I had 8 months of obstructions and frustrations before I finally opened the doors. Endless surprises, financial hurdles, even a city worker strike that prevented renovation the very week I signed my lease.

I felt exhausted, overworked, discouraged even.

There were days I thought “Really Shawn? I have better uses for my time and money. Is this still worth it?”

But when that day came, that day I put that new key in the door…

…it was ALL worth it, and more!

The universe tests to see how badly you want something. It’s true. And the bigger the dream, the bigger the test. Funny thing is, while we fight to breathe life into our own goals, we sometimes don’t realize how important they will become for others once we achieve them.

It’s possible you reading this might have a direct or indirect benefit from my own challenges in creating a dance studio: maybe you now have new friends and relationships, or better health, more inspiration, a creative outlet, financial gain, endless entertainment or just a sanctuary when you had a rough week…

Point is, even though it is still a challenge, I am SO happy that I didn’t quit. Not just because I get to do what I love daily, but because I see how having a crazy vision has literally enhanced the lives of so many in one way or another. That’s what service is about.

 

Coles Notes: Top 5 Tips Of Ancient Wisdom From The Mountaintop

1.) I’ve learned: It WON’T be easy.

2.) I’ve learned: If it is easy to accomplish and can be done quickly, you’re NOT thinking big enough. I don’t care who you are. Even millionaires with nearly  unlimited resources have massive goals that take years to achieve.

Ninja-Smoke Reveals This Wise Lesson:

The lesson, grasshopper?

3.) The goal you aspire to do, and more importantly- the person you need to become to make it a reality- is 100% worth the fight.

It’s worth FIGHTING for. Trust me on this.

Even if people think you’re crazy (which they will,) are unsupportive or simply don’t get your vision.

4.) Most people are afraid of change. Doing something noteworthy that can potentially change their lives and yours requires BALLS. It takes guts & determination to go opposite the crowd. Be a ninja and dash across the sky instead.

5.) You reap the rewards of your efforts. Small vision, effort and investment = small rewards. So what happens when we multiply that by a factor of awesome?

For you big thinkers out there: think bigger. Let’s think huge. Let’s be radical with our dreams. Let’s BELIEVE anything is possible in our crazy future, damnit!

 

It Takes Stupid Amounts Of…

Personally, I’ve been carving out an exciting NEW future which will benefit thousands of people. THOUSANDS. I’m not ignoring you. A goal that big takes time, hard work, stupid amounts of personal development, focus and desire.

Because I know where I’m going, I don’t care what people think.

Neither should you.

The ones that are curious about your huge new adventure will ask what you’re doing. It doesn’t mean people don’t care when you don’t hear back. But do take note of who goes out of their comfort zone and actually asks “So, what chu got there? What chu excited about? How can I help?”

Crap.

Friends. Let’s support each other through the obstacle courses we’ll face. The rollercoaster is guaranteed. We’re human after all. And shit HAPPENS. If you know this in advance you won’t be surprised when a hot turd lands smack on your face.

But remember:

Be like Dory and “just keep swimming, just keep swimming…” Keep moving toward the amazing future you envision because YOU DESERVE IT.

@ShawnByfield

The Absolute Best Way To Get The Best Advice

The Absolute Best Way To Get The Best Advice

Be as coachable as the Chicago Bulls in '98

I’m FRIGGIN EXCITED!

These 4 basketball legends above are the perfect example of why I’m excited. I’m sure you’ve seen them before, but I’ll get to them in a bit…

Tonight, I’m learning life success & biz tips from two multimillionaires. In person. One was a 3X World Series Champion and played with Toronto Blue Jays. Not too shabby.

Who cares, right?

Wrong. Here’s why you should care:

NEWSFLASH: To Make The NBA Finals, Kick Doug Off Your Team

I’m willing to be 100% coachable, I’m open to opportunities, and I’m seeking out wisdom and training from those who already have the success I want. I suggest you do the same.

What I’m talking about worked for Ron Harper, Dennis Rodman, Scottie Pippen and Michael Jordan… Heard of them?

For example, if you want to learn how to play professional basketball, seek out and learn from a coach who’s students consistently make it to the NBA finals. Not from your “uncle Doug” who hasn’t played in 17 years, but “watches” a lot of SportsNet so “he can teach you…”

…ahh, NO, he can’t. At least not to the level of success YOU want.

The best way to get the best advice is to find a top coach. Like Phil Jackson, who coached the boys on the Chicago Bulls in ’98 (and won six championships under his watch.)

Seek a wise mentor.

Learn from a seasoned teacher.

Be as diligent as those organizations dedicated to finding people anywhere on this planet. Pinpoint exactly who you’re looking for. Seek out a reputable, respected, knowledgeable leader that has REAL ability to teach you what you want to learn, and is serious about taking YOU to the next level.

And find someone who inspires you!

I know that because I truly want what’s best for those around me, for my family, students, and for everyone I’ll meet in the future, I have to improve personally in many areas. That only happens when you seek out the pros. Not your friends and family… PROFESSIONAL EXPERTS.

Poppin’ Champagne With Yo’ Homies…

Sure, your friends & family will always give their “opinion.” But ask yourself: Do they really KNOW what’s best for you? Have they truthfully achieved the success you’re looking for? And do THEY even want to see you succeed?

It’s important to always love your friends, you’ll want their support. And you’ll most likely want them around when it’s time to pop open that champagne!

Now I’m thirsty. =)

Anyway. To achieve a high level of success, in ANY field, learn from the leaders who can teach you based on their solid experience and track record.

That’s my Ninja advice for the day. Share with your friends and share your comments, I really read ’em! Share the love,

– Shawn B
@ShawnByfield