Why Learning To LOSE Actually Helps You Win

Why Learning To LOSE Actually Helps You Win

One of the greatest lessons you can give your child or student is this: Letting them LOSE.

Here’s why…

In life, everyone does NOT get a trophy. In life, you WILL fail, you WILL screw up, and gasp! You will LOSE. Why?

Don’t ask me why, it’s just that kind of universe! I wasn’t around when the original decisions were being made. But that’s how life *actually* works. Deal with it.

In our entitlement filled, everybody gets a medal culture, we set our kids up for failure in life. All the parental over-protecting eventually creates an under-accomplishing generation…

…What do you mean you don’t know how to do laundry? What do you mean you don’t know how to rewrite a test, or redo a course? What do you mean you don’t know how to make eggs?

It starts with giving them the GIFT of standing on any competitive stage, and NOT receiving a placement. SOMEBODY has to lose! And this time, it’s YOUR kid. Plain and simple. Teach them how to deal with it.

Sharing Is Caring, So Give ‘Em This

Give them the life lesson of being in a losing team. (Heaven forbid they have to return to the school and work harder.) Give them the experience of being the only one in a category who did NOT place, so they know how to develop self-confidence, work ethic and the pick-myself-upness to advance in the future.

I really could go on and on and on with this one, but I trust you understand the value in letting your kids go through this valuable lesson on their own.

ON THEIR OWN (See Above)

Teach your kids how to LOSE. Gracefully and with maturity.

In the Olympics, every human on Earth knows only three countries win. 1st, 2nd, and 3rd. That’s it. THREE. Could you imagine watching an Olympics where every country won a medal? Where’s the competition in that? You laugh at the idea…

…Yet you expect that hilarious, unrealistic scenario for your own kids?

“But I don’t want their feelings to be hurt, blah blah blah…”

STOP IT. The reason kids have low self-esteem is because we keep buffering experiences for them to develop their self-esteem. Remember that time YOU screwed up? Made a mistake? Broke something? But *you learned something* from the experience? Exactly.

So why would you deprive young ones from the moments that teach how life ACTUALLY works?

Wisdom Stuff

As a certified coach and trainer, it’s my responsibility to share insight and wisdom to help prepare young ones (and us older ones) with the tools needed to steer in a positive direction. But the most valuable way to set up our next generation for success tomorrow, is by letting them experience how to overcome LOSING today.

And if you’re a young one reading this, my advice to you:

Experience LOSING as much as you can, as fast as you can. After a while, you’ll be glad you did. It gets easier. Because the more you lose, the more you’ll learn!

– Shawn Byfield


PERFORMERS: What’s All This “Merde” Sh*t About, Anyway?

Here’s a crappy story.

Why do we say “Merde” before performing?

The simple theory is this:

Merde is the French translation for the word “poop.” By the late 1800s, many major cities were literally covered in merde because of all the horses. Before motorized vehicles, horses did the heavy lifting to transport goods, materials, and people.

Poop was so bad, there was even “The Great Horse Manure Crisis of 1894!”

(No shit, look it up)

On average, a horse will produce between 15 to 35 lbs of manure daily. Because of this, people walked through poop daily.

Definitely a shitty situation…

Smells Interesting

When going for a night out, people trailed this poop into theatres.

However, performers with their uncanny natural spin on life, sat on this and squeezed out a positive… The more merde in the lobby and in the aisles meant the more people watching your show.

And the more people watching your show means: more energy, bigger applause, and more money for the theatre! Now that’s definitely nothing to turn your nose up at.

Call me a turd, but that’s why we say Merde before we perform. Now you know.

And! The French would say it three times “Merde Merde Merde” before stepping on stage, because the more shit that comes your way (literally), the better.

All right. I’m done talking about all this crap, and hope you feel relieved.

Watch your step, have fun, and a huge MERDE to every one of you performing today! 💩

– Shawn Byfield

As a sought-after presenter, choreographer, coach and entrepreneur, Shawn Byfield’s unique perspective is enjoyed by thousands who train and mentor with him every year. To start learning, yearning, movin’ or groovin’… contact Shawn before today ends.

Attention: The Newsies Strike Starts Now!

Brampton Music Theatre presents Disney’s Newsies

Get Newsies Tickets Here

The time has finally come to carry the banner.

For the past few weeks, I’ve been helping bring this wonderful musical to life. I gotta say, it’s so fulfilling, energizing, and rewarding to watch the next generation of stage performers hone their skills, and rise to the challenge.

They’re learning what it takes to be a stage performer in Canada and I must say… This cast is SO damn talented.

They’re hard workers.

They’re enthusiastic!

They’ve learned that singing and dancing at the same time isn’t as easy as it looks!

But most importantly… They’ve become FRIENDS.

I want you to see and hear what they’re working on. Because I’m super proud.

And… they’re making the dance moves look SO fun.

For one weekend only, our production of NEWSIES hits the stage! Will you support the NEWSIES in their fight?

Watch the Newsies sing, dance, and STRIKE at The Rose Theatre, Brampton Ontario.

Thursday March 28 – Sunday March 31, 2019

Push Here For NEWSIES Tickets Before They’re Gone

– Shawn Byfield

As a sought-after presenter, choreographer, coach and entrepreneur, Shawn Byfield’s unique perspective is enjoyed by thousands who train and mentor with him every year. To start learning, yearning, movin’ or groovin’… contact Shawn before today ends.

DANCE LOVERS: What To Do In Toronto On Family Day?

Hey Toronto dance lovers! It may be cold out there, but it’s always hot in the studio.

If you’re a fan of tap dance or hip hop, get yourself on the dance floor and into one of these workshops.

Warm your body, and an even warmer soul with some hot moves and fresh new inspiration!

Visit the pages below for more info:

Tap Dance Workshop

Get some rhythm in your life in this awesome Family Day tap dance class.

Hip Hop Dance Workshop

Burn the floor and get your groove on in this energizing hip hop class.

In the spirit of Family Day, don’t forget to bring your favourite buddy, the family you choose.

Let’s dance!

– Shawn Byfield

Trophies Are Nice, But This Is Better

DANCE COMPETITION SEASON is around the corner! Here’s a rehearsal snippet from a flamenco inspired #tapdance from last year’s season.

Press Here To Watch

Sure winning trophies are nice, but creating a memorable, challenging piece is always much more rewarding. This solo was best of all worlds, winning numerous categories and big scholarships, while providing a fulfilling challenge to my wonderfully smart student Lara.

I choreographed to a beautiful arrangement of a Gypsy song, “Seresta**” The entire piece was extremely musical, and filled with passion using complex, flamenco syncopation, a range of dynamics, and lots of space in the intro. Plus, listen to the time signature, one of my faves to work in! 🎶🎶

– Shawn B

**SERESTA performed by Dizzy Gillespie United & Nations Orchestra

Even Though Styles Change… THIS is Always In Fashion

Styles change. Trends disappear. But know what’s always in fashion?


Because saying THANK YOU never goes out of style. 📸 shot by #wweiimage @wweiimage Website

Had an incredible time emceeing Toronto Kids Fashion Week, both shows were SOLD OUT. I brought positive energy, showed some of my dance moves, and kept the event FUN and entertaining.

Congratulations to the models, all designers and the entire team behind the scenes!

#tkfw2018 #loveTKFW #torontofashionblog #torontofashionbloggers #torontoeventplanner #torontoevents #fashiontoronto #emceelife #torontoemcees #runwayfashion #meninsuits #blackexcellence #mindsetmatters #saythankyou

Toronto Adults: Here’s Tap Dance And Hip Hop Dance Classes You ACTUALLY Want To Take

Shawn Byfield and Byfield Dance Experience team in the community, warming up participants for Toronto Pearson Runway Run. Photo: Alejandro Quintero

Who’s in your circle? Life is too short to only be around grumpy people. In 2019, surround yourself with people who ACTUALLY want to see you happy, healthy, and positive!


Looking for somewhere with a non-competitive atmosphere? Want to just let loose and vibe, without feeling like you need to impress anyone? You’re in luck.

You can finally learn to tap dance in this beginner tap dance class at Byfield Dance Experience.  Or if you have years of experience, check out our the other Toronto tap dance classes. “Regular awesome people” attend after a long day of work or university. Students come to unwind, while fuelling their passion for tapdance.

Need to get a grip on your health? You can also ramp up your fitness level in a fun and funky hip hop dance class called Hip Hop Dance Workout. WARNING: If you don’t like sweating, this is not for you!


Check out the classes before spots fill up, you’ll be glad you did! Amazing dance coaches, lots of teeth smiles, and bottomless high-fives. Start your new year putting your BEST foot forward, with the right people.

Shawn Byfield

ONE HOUR SALE! Save Bucks On 2019 Hip Hop And Tap Dance Classes



Registration for 2019 hip hop dance classes and tap dance classes at Byfield Dance Experience starts Friday December 7th, at noon. While you’re at lunch, why not grab your spot in on of Toronto’s favourite dance classes for adults?

Press Here To Instantly Save Your Spot

BONUS: For ONE HOUR ONLY, from 12 noon to 1pm, all students registering will receive a sweet discount, just for signing up. Perfect way to save some bucks before the holidays.

But hurry… once the clock strikes ONE, the deal is over!

  Shawn Byfield

Friday December 7th | 12pm – 1pm


UPCOMING: Groove Street Productions Vancouver

West coast dancers, I’m coming for you. Let’s sweat, get inspired, and have some FUN!

Teaching tap dance and musical theatre master classes at Groove Street Productions dance convention all weekend long near Vancouver this November, with an INCREDIBLE faculty you won’t want to miss. Surrey BC is where it all goes down!

Will I see you there?

– Shawn Byfield

Visit Groove Street’s website for The Info

UPCOMING: Tap Dance Workshop Class With Shawn Byfield



— Teachers and assistants who need a refresher and inspiration
— Students thinking about performing as a career
— Tap dancers who want a different experience
— New teachers learning the ropes
— Teachers working on ideas for exercises
— Dancers looking for a fun challenge mentally and physically
— And any dancers that love tap dancing but haven’t in a while


— Tap shoes (to dance in)
— Positive energy (to share)
— Notepad and pen (to take notes)
— Snacks (to eat *NUT FREE please)
— A smile (to brighten the room)


Byfield Dance Experience
819 Yonge Street, Toronto (Downstairs)


Only $29 in advance for a killer, informative and inspiring workshop with Shawn Byfield.

Each class is 90 minutes, and space in the studio is very limited.

Don’t delay, RSVP TODAY before you miss it! When a class is full, the button below will disappear… and you’ll miss out.

Tell a friend, choose your class, and see you there!

Shawn Byfield


PS: ALL AGES WELCOME, minimum 3 years tap dance training required.

tap dance with Shawn Byfield