Why Learning To LOSE Actually Helps You Win
One of the greatest lessons you can give your child or student is this: Letting them LOSE.
In life, everyone does NOT get a trophy. In life, you WILL fail, you WILL screw up, and gasp! You will LOSE. Why?
Don’t ask me why, it’s just that kind of universe! I wasn’t around when the original decisions were being made. But that’s how life *actually* works. Deal with it.
In our entitlement filled, everybody gets a medal culture, we set our kids up for failure in life. All the parental over-protecting eventually creates an under-accomplishing generation…
…What do you mean you don’t know how to do laundry? What do you mean you don’t know how to rewrite a test, or redo a course? What do you mean you don’t know how to make eggs?
It starts with giving them the GIFT of standing on any competitive stage, and NOT receiving a placement. SOMEBODY has to lose! And this time, it’s YOUR kid. Plain and simple. Teach them how to deal with it.
Sharing Is Caring, So Give ‘Em This
Give them the life lesson of being in a losing team. (Heaven forbid they have to return to the school and work harder.) Give them the experience of being the only one in a category who did NOT place, so they know how to develop self-confidence, work ethic and the pick-myself-upness to advance in the future.
I really could go on and on and on with this one, but I trust you understand the value in letting your kids go through this valuable lesson on their own.
ON THEIR OWN (See Above)
Teach your kids how to LOSE. Gracefully and with maturity.
In the Olympics, every human on Earth knows only three countries win. 1st, 2nd, and 3rd. That’s it. THREE. Could you imagine watching an Olympics where every country won a medal? Where’s the competition in that? You laugh at the idea…
…Yet you expect that hilarious, unrealistic scenario for your own kids?
“But I don’t want their feelings to be hurt, blah blah blah…”
STOP IT. The reason kids have low self-esteem is because we keep buffering experiences for them to develop their self-esteem. Remember that time YOU screwed up? Made a mistake? Broke something? But *you learned something* from the experience? Exactly.
So why would you deprive young ones from the moments that teach how life ACTUALLY works?
As a certified coach and trainer, it’s my responsibility to share insight and wisdom to help prepare young ones (and us older ones) with the tools needed to steer in a positive direction. But the most valuable way to set up our next generation for success tomorrow, is by letting them experience how to overcome LOSING today.
And if you’re a young one reading this, my advice to you:
Experience LOSING as much as you can, as fast as you can. After a while, you’ll be glad you did. It gets easier. Because the more you lose, the more you’ll learn!
– Shawn Byfield